I lost my job last week.
The twist? I was okay with it, thankful even. I had reached a point in my career where the job I was doing made me so miserable, that I was just ready for it to be over. When it ended, I felt such a massive sense of relief. I no longer needed to go to a job that made me sad every day, and any fear I had about how I was going to pay my astronomical rent or what I was going to do next was pushed into the very back of my mind.
I had left a job that I loved, and moved my entire life an hour and a half away from everything I knew to take this job that was supposed to advance my career. It was supposed to be a job where I could learn more than what I had with my previous company where I had, unfortunately, hit my ceiling.
It was an opportunity and I had to at the very least try to advance myself, but like I said the job made me miserable. Every day, I got in my car, drove to work, and sat in the parking lot debating whether or not I should go inside and work, or turn around pack up my dogs and flee the country.
Fleeing the country always seemed way too dramatic. Also, I only ever had about $11 in my savings account, so going inside always won.
I don’t want to say anything bad about the company where I worked. They had their issues, but so does every company. They were good to me earlier this year when I was having health issues, and they gave me a chance to learn despite me having very little background in the field.
At the end of the day, not every job or company is going to be a good fit for a person. When I made the decision to take this job, I didn’t know what was going to happen. But, I said I had to try, and I did. I tried my ass off. I wouldn’t say I succeeded, but I wouldn’t say I failed either.
To be honest, I had been looking for another job anyway. I didn’t look that hard though, because I felt guilty about leaving. It sounds stupid to feel guilty leaving a job that I’m not happy with, but when it came down to it, they were good to me. I liked my bosses, and they were good people, and I did feel guilty for being so unhappy.
The company was decent enough to give me a good severance package, so while the irrational part of me is screaming to find myself a sugar daddy before I wind up living under a bridge somewhere, the more rational side of me knows that I’m going to be fine financially, at least for a little while until I figure out what my next step is.
I don’t know what’s next. I’ve always wanted to open my own bar, but that takes money and I don’t think that whole $11 dollars in my savings is going to get me far. I do love waitressing and bartending, but there are very few jobs that offer real benefits in restaurants and now that I’m an adult I understand the importance of things like vacation time and health insurance.
I also really want to do something working with special needs animals. After my own experience adopting a special needs animal, I want to help place “unadoptable” animals in the suitable homes, and educate people that these animals are worth any difficulties and special needs you may experience when choosing to take them home.
None of these seem like viable options for me, because I lack the money and experience. I don’t think either of these are things I can just pull out of my ass, either.
I’m thinking about moving, but I’m not sure where. I did consider packing up and moving to Florida a few months ago, but I’m not sure if that’s the right step for me either. I’ve always wanted to live there, and I had planned to go to college there, but I married an idiot instead.
I’ve had a tough time making new friends since I moved to where I live now, but at least the drive to see my friends from home was manageable. If I moved to Florida, I’d have to fly home to see my friends and family. I would be totally alone, especially if I wasn’t able to make friends once I moved. On the other hand, I don’t see my home friends frequently anyway, so it doesn’t seem like a good reason to stay.
I love living where I am, but it seems silly to stay here since I no longer have the job I moved here for. Plus, if I do decide to continue working in finance, there isn’t much opportunity for someone like me here. Not to mention, if I live here and commute to where there are more opportunities, it would cost way to much money and take way to much time.
I decided to take the summer off and enjoy myself for once, but it’s only day four and I am climbing the walls. I have worked 40+ hours a week since graduating from high school, and even then I was working two jobs. I have never had this much free time before.
I have been trying to make it a point to get up early every day, and get outside and do things. Otherwise, I’m sitting in my apartment in my ugly pajamas until I HAVE to leave the house, which I know I’ll fall into the habit of doing if I don’t force myself to get out every day.
I’m not complaining, though. I really love being at home and spending more time with my dogs. I like being able to sleep later than 5:30 AM. Coincidentally, my apartment complex finally opened our pool after two years, so I really LOVE being able to sit by the pool and relax.