F words

I am a fat girl. I mean I am not gonna wind up on that show my 600 lb life any time soon but I’m fat and I own my fatness- there’s nothing wrong with it and I am not ashamed of it. I like myself, I like the way I look – sure i would love to lose a few lbs but I decided a long time ago that I am not longer going to spend my life agonizing over every calorie so I can be a smaller size so society will find me sexier. It is still possible to be “fat” and sexy, its possible to be fat and interesting, fat and funny, fat and smart. My fatness doesn’t take away from my ability to be attractive, or a good friend, or a woman worthy of finding a man.

So one thing that really grinds my gears is when men have to comment on my body. We don’t need to talk about my curves, we don’t need to call me a bbw, I am not thicc. You wouldn’t great a thin woman by saying something like “Hey gorgeous skinny girl” because if you did you would sound like a complete fucking weirdo. So why would you ever great a plus size woman that way. It is equally if not more creepy. I am not a circus animal, I am not an alien, and you do not deserve an award for being interested in me. I literally gag every time I open a message along the lines of “I love your belly”, “I love a BBW”.¬† And I am not downing anyone for being thin- I firmly believe that as long as you are healthy that you should be able to love your body with out anyone fetishizing you for it. My body type is not a fetish. I am a smart, strong, funny, attractive girl, with a great job who happens to really like cake¬† and vodka but has a pretty shitty metabolism.

These men though are the same men who will jump to calling you fat and disgusting as soon as you even hint at rejecting them for their creepy opener, or their lame ass attempt at trying to get in bed with you before even buying a single drink, further trying to act as though they deserved a medal and a small parade for even glancing in your direction. But if were being honest- and I am not trying to toot my own horn or anything, any time me and my smaller friends go out I am usually the one who gets the most male attention. I mean its probably because I have huge boobs and really sweet dance moves but the fact remains that someone has got to tell these men that they are not the only ones interested in bigger girls and that treating them like some sort of purple elephant is NEVER going to work for them.